So far, the wedding planning has been easy. All of the big things are booked and we have sent out our "out-of-state" invitations and are waiting for the replies. Next month, we will send out our "local" invitations and hopefully have our guest count by the first of the year! It has been a great experience and so much fun, but there is one thing that is difficult when planning a wedding (or any other event)...
Other people's opinions.
There. I said it. Everyone has one and everyone wants to know what we are doing and has a comment they feel the need to share. Most of the time, they are positive and I have no problem answering questions from people who are interested, but every now and then there is a rude or negative comment that gets to me.
I do not understand why people feel the need to try to disagree with us on certain things. Everyone agrees that it is OUR wedding and we should have what WE want. If that's true, then why do people try to put us down for what we want? To that I say....too bad. It IS our wedding and it's our choice what we do and do not have. Phil and I agree on everything and he has just as much say in it as I do. We are making the decisions based on how we would like our wedding day to be celebrated. So what if it's not what you want...it's not your day. You have either had (or will have) your day to choose exactly what you want and I will be supportive of that.
We see our wedding as a day to celebrate the commitment we have made to each other. We do not want to be inebriated or have our guests drunk at the wedding so there is no alcohol. Now, some people might *gasp* at this fact and think that it is terrible, rude, or tacky, but our reception starts at NOON. There is really no need to drink that early. Also, we have chosen to have a "light lunch buffet" which includes deli sandwiches, salad, potato salad, fresh fruit and veggies, and a chocolate fountain. We are not fancy people and wanted something that wasn't going to be heavy while we were dancing in the early afternoon. Plus, our cake will be amazing! We have a great woman doing our cake and everyone loves her cakes. The one thing that is the biggest for us is that we are not inviting children under five to the wedding. This is not only for our sanity, but for the parents as well. By not having young children at the wedding, it gives everyone an opportunity to celebrate and not have to worry about a crying/tired/cranky/bored baby or child. Parents can enjoy themselves more and not have to be sitting with or chasing their children around the ceremony/reception.
We really have put a lot of thought and effort into our wedding and want everyone to have a great time. Not everyone is going to agree with our decisions or like what we have chosen and that's ok. You are entitled to your opinion, but at the end of the day--it's still our choice and you get to chose if you want to be a part of it or not. Either way, we are going to have a great wedding because the most important thing is that we are finally getting married and I am marrying the man that I love.